Our Feelings Open Doors

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There are moments in life that feel defining in some way. 

I got pissed about something this week. I was walking the dog when a text came in that nearly threw me into a fit of rage. I was already at the edge of my patience level after a rough morning with my four year old, and this text was the straw that broke the camel's back. 
 

I could have made a LOT of bad decisions in the moments that followed, but I took some deep breaths and kept walking. I've learned by now (and hopefully you're learning as you read these blog posts) that my first thought simply IS, and it's the following thoughts that make up the life I'm living. I realized, in this moment of blood boiling frustration, that the only person I'm angry with is myself; the situation that stirred up my feelings had nothing to do with me EXCEPT to serve as a mirror.

The anger, jealously, sadness, and general victim mentality I was feeling, was an opportunity to take action, but the only way I could see the next necessary step was to open the door through those icky feelings. Instead of letting them fester, or allowing them to trigger less than desirable behavior, I leaned into them and more or less asked them where they were leading me. These 'no good, very bad, horrible' feelings were actually leading me exactly where I need to go. Like a key, I could feel the awareness unlocking the door to the next leg of my journey. 
 

So instead of doing something I'd surely regret, I came home, wrote this blog post, and will now work the heck out of my business that I love, so that I can hit the goals that I've set for myself. 

 

"The Model"- a Brooke Castillo process, with an Amanda Kingsley twist...

SITUATION
- Text about a situation that I don't care to reveal publicly


THOUGHT ABOUT THE SITUATION
- “That's bullshit- completely unfair and downright rude.”


THE FEELING THIS THOUGHT TRIGGERS
- Anger


THE ACTION TAKEN FROM THIS FEELING
- The action I wanted to take was to make a public statement and an angry phone call (but I know the model well enough to have not done that)


THE RESULT OF THIS ACTION
- Would have been a big fat and ugly mess
 

ASK (Is this in alignment with my WHY?)
-No

 

The Model applied for realignment: 

SAME SITUATION
- Text about a situation that I don't care to reveal publicly


NEW THOUGHT ABOUT THE SAME SITUATION
- “That makes me so angry! Where is this anger coming from?"


THE NEW FEELING THIS THOUGHT TRIGGERS
- Curiosity


THE NEW ACTION TAKEN FROM THIS FEELING
- Use the anger as a key to productive action and growth,  rather than blaming someone else for making me feel shitty.


THE RESULT
- One step closer to hitting my goals.


ASK (Is this in alignment with my WHY?)
-YES!

WIN!
 

What feelings can you lean into, instead of running from?

Remember, just because you run the model once doesn't mean the feelings won't come back; when they do, just run it again. Each time will be quicker and or more effective than the last. 

 

Believing in YOU,

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