It's Not JUST About the Decision
There's a common theme among successful people, people who have turned their lives from rags to riches, suffering to bliss, fear to freedom. Most of their stories include this line,
"I made a decision."
A decision to:
stop overeating
stop drinking
become an entrepreneur
leave my abusive relationship
become a "better" parent
I've always found this concept a little infuriating. I've made a lot of decisions in my life, and I just don't get the same life altering results.
About 8 weeks ago my daughter turned 13, her siblings are sneaking up right behind her, and just like "they" said it would, it's starting to feel like a blur. I'm wanting to slow it all down, but also feeling a push to make it extra awesome as fast as possible.
It was almost like the flip of a switch. Her birthday came and went, and all of a sudden this teen mom was feeling a massive calling to change things up. So I made a decision. I actually made a REALLY BIG decision, and you know what? I felt like crap for about 3 weeks after. I was overwhelmed, emotionally vulnerable, confused, angry, and all kinds of uncomfortable.
Yet, despite the discomfort I knew I had done the right thing. I knew that even though the rainbows and glitter didn't come swirling around me, I had done the right thing. So despite the intensity I kept moving forward in the direction of my decision. I kept aligning myself around supportive people, taking action on this new adventure, waiting and believing that eventually there would be clarity.
AND IT CAME!
Turns out the magic was as much in the decision making as in the acceptance of the post decision discomfort. I made a decision and kept taking action despite feeling utterly crappy.
The clarity came with an added desire to add some video content to these blogs.
And as per usual The Model is key!
"The Model"- a Brooke Castillo process, with an Amanda Kingsley twist...
SITUATION
- Daughter turned THIRTEEN
MY THOUGHT ABOUT THE SITUATION
- “Holy shit; it's flying by and I've wasted all this time not living the life I REALLY want for us.”
THE FEELING THIS THOUGHT TRIGGERS
- Guilt
THE ACTION I TAKE FROM THIS FEELING
- Self-destruction in the form of "bad mommy" syndrome, and a search for validation of my lack of self-worth.
THE RESULT OF THIS ACTION
- Overeating, self-pity, cranky mommy.
ASK (Is this in alignment with my WHY?)
-No
The Model applied for realignment:
SAME SITUATION
- Daughter turned THIRTEEN
MY NEW THOUGHT ABOUT THE SAME SITUATION
- “Time is flying by, but there's no time like the present to change our current situation and kick things up a notch.”
THE NEW FEELING THIS THOUGHT TRIGGERS
- Excitement
THE NEW ACTION I TAKE FROM THIS FEELING
- A HUGE entrepreneurial move (more to come) that felt a bit like jumping off a cliff with nothing but trust that the landing would be soft, or I'd somehow grow wings.
THE RESULT
- Three weeks of pure discomfort, followed by a life changing morning of clarity (better described in the video).
ASK (Is this in alignment with my WHY?)
-YES!
