Infertility and Abortion -the Parallels
Priya Ferrie is a confidence coach for coaches. Her reproductive past includes cancer induced infertility and a journey to self-love and acceptance. Her infertility became a mirror that showed her all the powerlessness she was living in. Our conversation spans so many amazing topics and realizations.
Visit Priya’s website: https://priyaferrie.com/
Show Notes:
1:34 Priya’s introduction
3:10 Priya’s story- cancer treatment induced infertility
3:57 “I had been living in very disempowering ways and infertility really became this mirror that showed me all the powerlessness I was living in. All the shame and all the talking myself out of my dreams.”
4:19 “I couldn’t launch. I was hiding… I had to go through my own self-healing journey of finding my voice, feeling confident to show up powerfully”
5:21 It’s not just your abortion you’re feeling. IG post
6:07 “The stuff that was coming up had been there for a long time; it’s just that now I was facing it”
8:22 “I don’t want to do it alone… I can get support when I need it, and I have zero shame about getting it”
9:09 Resisting reality, resisting feelings
11:45 Is it ever gonna go away? Am I ever going to feel better? Will I ever fit in again? Am I going to be like this forever? Is this breaking me?
12:23 “What if your body is perfect as it is?”
12:57 Sometimes we just need permission and perspective
13:50 Trying on new thoughts
15:58 “Owning your brilliance”
16:28 “My voice matters”
16:56 Own your abortion
17:10 “We’re not robots; we’re strong but we’re also fragile”
17:25 “Forgiving yourself if you feel like you didn’t make the right choice or the right decision”
17:35 It’s okay to regret your choices… loving and having compassion for yourself even when
18:31 “I forgive myself for not trying sooner”
18:41 “Making forgiveness a practice… and having your own back”
19:38 Make a decision. Act on the decision. Feel all the feelings. And then have your own back. If we have our own back we can learn from it.
20:14 “Trying to make the perfect choice, and make the right decision… how do we know what’s right and what’s wrong”
20:53 “Our culture teaches us, as women, to be perfect… all of that has to go to really show up as yourself”
22:15 “I definitely have some medical trauma”
23:43 “That’s part of my journey of repairing my relationship with modern medicine”
24:35 “But maybe there’s an opportunity for you there to reevaluate and redecide… opportunity to look at everything you had made an assumption about”
24:58 “There’s kind of a gift there; doesn’t feel like it but that’s how I see it”
26:06 “We love to assign meaning as human beings, but what if this was going to be part of my journey regardless”
27:45 “Our brains want to know everything ahead of time; it gives us this false sense of safety, but it’s not real; you don’t know until you do it”
28:03 “Real safety is loving yourself through it all… no amount of perfect decision making is going to do that for you. As long as you are human, you’re going to be imperfect”
30:48 “What story do I want to choose”
32:09 “The shame I lived with for a long time; what really helped me was that I can have shame and I can still love myself”
32:36 “The shame can be present and I’m still a badass”
34:53 “We’re following a bunch of rules that weren’t set out by us, and part of our work as women is to really unlearn those rules”
36:28 “Our wombs tap into creative power; it can make a baby or not”
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