ReClaiming Confidence After Abortion
Amy Latta is the confidence coach for life coaches, a former "good girl" and rule follower who thought she had to be perfect in order to feel confident all the time. And yet, life just don't allow for perfection, so what's human to do? Amy had to learn to feel confident in herself, no matter the choices she made and the results she created in her life, and now she coaches other coaches to do the same. She leads her clients through three confidence-creating questions create self-confidence right now, with nothing having to change, so you can take your next-best-step forward. Today.
Her website is: https://www.amylatta.com/
Show Notes:
0:44 Simone Seol
2:30 Amy’s introduction
3:38 “Learning how to have my own back so I can move forward with my life”
5:10 “Confidence is my jam… and it’s my own work that I have to do on a regular basis too”
5:55 Episode 86, Episode 30
7:18 “What I want to offer everybody out there is that confidence is actually really really simple, because it is a feeling and your feelings come from what you’re thinking”
7:30 Three questions
What are you believing that you don’t have to believe?
What do you want to believe instead?
What’s the next best step you can make from that new place of belief?8:09 “Believe it or not, going back in time and changing your decision won’t make you any more confident, sweeping things under the rug doesn’t make you any more confident, having everybody in your life change their opinion about you will not make you more confident; it’s 100% an inside job”
9:48 “We think other people’s opinions about us matter”
10:19 “OPOs (other people’s opinions) ain’t got shit to do with you”
11:33 “Their opinion of me has to do with their thoughts, their beliefs, what they believe is right or wrong, what they think they would or wouldn’t do, and their just projecting that on to you”
12:16 “Nine times out of ten, what you think people are thinking, they aren’t thinking” “That’s what you are thinking about you”
15:03 “I’ll make what I perceive their opinion to be of me, be real, and then that will make me feel bad about myself.”
15:30 “I get to decide what I want to think about those words and them saying that to me, just because they’ve said them doesn’t make it more true.”
16:07 “It’s still an opinion and it’s still optional”
17:35 “Does it serve you? … Do you feel confident when you think that? … if you don’t you get to decide”
18:13 “Run it through the I-C-U… I see you thought”
18:38 “Just because a lot of people believe something, does not make it true”
19:13 “It’s possible that that’s not true” … “there are some people”
20:35 “The Helga brain” primal brain- What are you believing that you don’t have to? “The Gigi brain” prefrontal cortex- What do you want to believe instead?
25:07 “Every human being has the same shit going on in their brain”
26:03 “Thoughts are optional”
26:14 “You may not be ready to choose something different”
28:35 “...and then that becomes truer and truer and truer, and you feel a little bit more confident”
29:00 “Confidence isn’t this thing that you put on or off, all confidence is acknowledging…”
29:44 “I have my clients make this list of things that they perceive as positive about themselves and things that they perceive as negative about themselves, and they put it in alternating order; it’s a little bit of a jedi mind trick here”
31:04 “Teaching yourself to love yourself, no matter what you have done”
Breaking down, black and white, good and bad, being a human is all the things all of the time
33:42 “Every human does things that they wish they hadn’t done, but they are still good enough and a worthy human being because their sheer existence is proof of that”
34:56 There’s so many reason people choose to have abortions
35:43 “Loving yourself at what you perceive is your least loveable”
38:58 “Confidence is a long game”
40:48 “I think confidence ultimately is not knowing what you are going to do, it’s knowing that you’re gonna be okay no matter what”
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