The Power In and Around Abortion Decisions
Hannah helps passionate creators and business owners who can’t see the forest for the trees. She helps them detangle the confusion and doubt, so they can reconnect with the spark of inspiration and clarity they’ve been craving.
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Show Notes:
“I don’t make the decision for them”
“There is no right or wrong decision”
“It’s a complex decision with many factors”
You have the sovereign power on what to decide and how to decide
How to have your own back and a deeper sense of self trust after
Pitfalls to avoid
“Sorry you’ve had to carry that pain”
I learned I can do hard things and I can have my own back
Secondary result of making decisions “the connection you make with yourself”
“The privilege to make a choice is huge from how we recover from it”
Shoulds and wants…
“Your decisions might align with other people.. they might not”
“I’m allowed to consider these other opinions, but ultimately the decision is mine”
“Allow your voice a seat at the table” “heard by you”
“Clarity on what you want that isn’t downing in other people’s wants”
What’s in the highest good?
“Sometimes 80% clarity is as good as it’s gonna get”
“You CAN make this choice even if 80% clarity is all you have”
What are all the decisions surrounding your decision?
“There’s so much context that goes into a moment”
We get to choose how to regard it after
We get to reframe
“You don’t have to hold yourself in the cell of that decision”
There’s lots of consequences: positive, negative and neutral, and we can choose what lens to see those in
“I am a queen, this is my kingdom, my domain, I get to choose who lives here…” Queens make hard decisions
“Agonizing over it isn’t a bad thing”
In holding the decision that it was wrong does that give me more power or take away my power?
New decision- where am I going to take my power now?
“Any decision is right”
Decisions that follow honor your learning
Can be something “we come to respect”
We’re human; we’re allowed to make mistakes, even with dire consequences, and we can trust and rebuild ourselves”
Even if you went the long way, you’re still gonna make it
“It feels like you might die, it’s terrifying AND…. I hold this vision for my clients that they are so capable, they are going to handle this as gracefully as they can…”
“We are worthy of the life we’ve chosen”
Human beings are herd animals
When and why you might want to look back at a past decision and change how you think about it
“It’s possible to change”
“There’s a point where you feel tired of the old story”
“Sometimes when we’re in our pain we feel like there’s no other way”
“Sometimes it can feel like you’re being swept away by your emotions, but at the end of the day your emotions are coming from the brain”
“This is a natural consequence downriver of that decision”
“I want to feel differently”
I’m making the decision and I have a relationship to the decisions I make
There are always way to toss things around in your mind
With complex decisions it’s hard to make everyone feel seen
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