Processing Abortion when it's all over the News and Media
After her own abortion Becca found herself confronting news and social media in every direction. What had once been an escape was a place she couldn’t turn to for healing and she continues to now find healing in nature, books, groups and more.
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Show Notes:
1:13 Becca’s introduction
3:00 As we’re healing and processing, mostly in silence, abortion can be all over the news and media
3:23 “I couldn’t hide from it”
4:09 Partner coerced abortion “I didn’t want to necessarily have my abortion but my partner had pressured me into it”
4:41 “I didn’t go through it ‘with him’ he wasn’t my ‘partner’”
6:06 The only way I could participate in those conversations “was to out myself”
7:21 “wanting to be involved but knowing it wasn’t good for my mental health to be involved”
8:45 “I’ve learned to not internalize those comments”
9:28 “My first year was really rough, I don’t think I had figured out how to separate grieving and disconnecting.”
11:38 “I travelled to a different state to have my abortion… it already is hard”
13:11 What did this experience teach you about grieving?
13:43 “For me it made me decide to get out in nature more and connect in a different way”
18:27 “When I’m outside I’m not constantly surrounding myself with other people’s versions of my story”
Seeing cardinals as a sign of the person I didn’t get to meet
Honoring the monthly post abortion cycle
22:42 “For me healing didn’t really start until I recognized that this is my story and this is what happened”
When other stories feel helpful at the beginning and then become unhealthy
25:12 “I wanted to know I wasn’t alone in my story but I think after a while…”
26:30 “There’s someone else out there that’s also grappling with guilt, and shame, and sadness and can echo that that’s okay to feel those things”
26:16 Exhale
28:48 “There is this stigma of shame that we obviously have to get over, but we’re not gonna get over that if no one is talking about it.”
29:44 Choice Words
30:38 “Don’t stop looking”
30:52 The Healing Guide
31:35 May Cause Love
Ars Botanica
32:34 Mary Oliver Devotions
33:05 You’re The Only one I’ve Told
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