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There’s a cave that every parent has been through. Some parents have really good light and many guides along the way, so they come through less scathed. Others feel like they can see and breathe again when their kids hit about 3 or 4. That’s the point when they start to realize parenting isn’t all about survival, you can actually raise children into independent beings, think in full sentences, and start thriving again. There continue to be many points along the way that feel cave like, but none quite like those first years of spit up, diapers, sleepless nights, and crying. The early years of parenting are hard. For many it takes every ounce of strength you have to stay upright and keep moving forward. You hardly realize what’s happening when you are in the throws of it, but the little people in your arms are blooming into big people who will change you and change the world.
My abortion was almost 3 years ago and in many ways I feel like I’m coming out of the cave. My legs were wobbly for a bit, but I kept moving forward and things are starting to feel steady and strong again. The vision of what’s to come is getting clearer and clearer.
This turn of a new year brings light for us all. You have your people, you have your inner wisdom, and now you have me. Let me be your light. Whether you had your abortion last month or 30 years ago this can be the year that you thrive. 2020 can be the year that you step out of the cave and decide to thrive.
What is it you want to do?
Who is it you want to be?
How do you want to use all your life experience as fuel for a future you love?
Maybe it’s been hard for a reason.
Maybe it’s been easy for a reason.
Is it possible that if you shift your perspective you could create something this year that would blow your own mind?
I’m one of those people who believes that everything happens for a reason. I don’t just think it sounds good, and I try not to spit it in people’s faces when they are struggling, but I really do believe, deep down in my bones, that everything happens for a reason.
When I think “Everything happens for a reason”, I feel curious, expansive, and determined. Then I start looking. I’m looking for validation, evidence, bread crumbs that will lead me to the life lesson or pot of gold that I was destined for. There is absolutely no harm in me thinking that everything happens for a reason.
On the other hand, when I think, “This shouldn’t have happened” or “I wish this didn’t happen”, I feel victimized, frustrated, and angry. I search the past for things I missed, places I screwed up, people to blame. I’m on a quest to prove that I, and or the system, are broken and need to be fixed. I’m the first person to tell you that some of our people and systems are in need of massive healing and reform, but believing things have gone wrong doesn’t serve me or you at all. I’d much rather believe that “Everything happens for a reason” and take growth minded action from there.
As hard as abortion was for me, I’ll never wish it didn’t happen. It made me who I am, and I refuse to believe that it means something went wrong. It also made you who you are. It’s okay if you haven’t yet figured out who the new you is. It’s okay if you’re still feeling more angry than expansive, and it’s also okay to believe that 2020 is the year you bloom in honor of your abortion. There is a free webinar replay on my website. It walks you through what I call a Life Shower. You can head to my website to watch that replay anytime but I’m also going to talk you through it here in this 2020 kick off episode. I believe that 2020 is the year you can make your abortion mean something that feels good to you. I believe that it happened for a reason and I want to help you discover and cultivate that.
Here’s the replay if you’re reading and not listening today:
