Pleasure as a Source of Healing
This week’s guest is Kalah Hill. She shares her personal and professional experience. Kalah is a Love Child, Freedom Doula, Pleasure Activist, and Receptivity Alchemist. She is a person of service, a support, a container for change to take place in, and offering of care, a facilitator of receptivity, and a vessel for freedom. Kalah offers you individualized and group support for the process of self actualization, threshold crossing, and dancing with the silence between the notes.
Visit her website at: https://inpleasurewetrust.com/
Show Notes:
1:38 Kalah’s “juicy” introduction: love child, freedom doula, pleasure activist, receptivity alchemist
2:20 “Come home to satiation and freedom”
2:36 “A lot of my work stems from the back of black feminist literature, and writers, and philosophies… I carry that path”
3:07 “I love to awaken the delight, and the sensual, and the erotic”
3:30 “I feel like there’s always a way for us to shift the story and recraft the narrative… where the story has space to grow and change.”
5:17 Avatar
6:55 Kalah’s personal story: “I grew up with my single white mom” in a very pleasure normalized home
8:32 “Kalah I’ve seen thousands of bodies, everyone’s got one. That’s what I’ve concluded.”
9:18 Everyone Poops
9:40 “How wonderful and how not special” My IG post “You’re not that special.”
10:04 “I had my abortion in graduate school” “I knew the moment I got pregnant”
11:19 “My body, my choice, and for me it was a pretty easy one to say no to having a child in that moment” “It was not the time”
12:15 University Gynecologist for Abortion
13:05 “I have a story about souls choosing their parents, that my mother really instilled in me”
13:52 “A lot of the work I do now is for my mother and for the healing of all mothers”
14:08 “This little one that chose me for a moment still remains, I feel like this soul is still choosing me”
14:30 Having ritual, having ceremony… remove it out of the physical and into the spiritual gave it occupancy… that allowed me to be affirmed in my choosing”
17:10 “There’s just so much magic when it comes to these little ones, they’re a direct link to source”... babies are “mega manifestors”
19:14 Dismantling the attachment to children coming into the world in partnerships
20:03 Dismantling the hetero monogomous culture under the umbrella of patriarchy and capitalism
20:58 “The whole concept of the family has been bottlenecked into a tiny iteration of what it could look like”
23:09 … “The species is surviving!” Survival- check. Time for evolution. “Now we need to look at what we’re not doing well” - “craft new paradigms of being and thriving with each other”
25:17 “We’re in a liminal space of potential and opportunity””queer people get this”
26:37 “Read any queer black literature and you’ll find where this is taking place”
27:45 How We Show Up- Reclaiming Family, Friendship, and Community, Mia Birdsong
28:30 “Cultivating communities of love ethics”
29:54 The more children have access to adult caretakers who they can trust outside of their immediate families, the more apt those children are going to be when they enter the world as adults in trusting the spaces in which they dwell”
30:53 “creativity way beyond the status quo”
32:19 How pleasure heals? “Me coming back to my body after the abortion was in relationship and community”
33:30 “The pleasure piece is communion, deep deep communion and connection”
34:10 “What pleasure does is it satiates… we are able to ‘be’ instead of do”
34:50 “You begin to trust beyond needing to intellectually understand”
35:40 “This body has been in practice for millions of years… your body, this design is the highest upgrade”
36:59 “We are all walking miracles… what are we gonna do with it”
37:25 “Being with the body, healing into that space of deep trust”
38:02 “Pleasure is a gateway drug to liberation”
38:13 Adrienne Marie Brown, Pleasure Activism
38:38 “We live in a world where they sell us back our joy as if it weren’t already ours”
38:58 What happens when we’re not following our desire, when we’re not in tune with our pleasure?
39:28 “Every single iteration of our experience is needed”
40:30 “I think there’s a direct correlation between pain and pleasure”
41:01 “The essence of pleasure is a fluid state”
42:27 “Sometimes the pain comes before the pleasure”
46:12 “If you’re listening to this and you’re struggling… know that there’s beauty in the grieving process”
47:57 “When we can go into the depths of our pain and our grievance… we open to a new discovery of something we didn’t know before”
48:31 “When we are honest about our grief there is so much clarity”48:48
48:48 Dynamic duo of pain and pleasure
49:00 “In your pain there is a calling for satiation and fulfillment that is the next turn around the corner to you”
50:31 Emotional body is a spectrum- if I’m willing to feel this much pain I can experience that much pleasure and vice versa… surrender- let it move through the body
52:02 “Pain and pleasure are so similar in their capacity for transformation”
53:00 Website- www.inpleasurewetrust.com IG-@kalah.hill
