Give the Family You Have Copious Amounts of Love and Attention
Rhonda Marshall is a Parenting Coach who is committed to improving the lives of individuals and communities. She has spent the past 20 years of her life creating safe and nurturing space where individuals can share and heal from their trauma and is currently most passionate about the work she is doing as a Parenting Coach.
This is part 1 of a 5 part series inspired by this post on instagram.
Show Notes:
“It’s an important conversation that needs to be had many times”
When your abortion story is kinda hanging out and distracting you
Lack of support, feeling isolated…
Choosing to keep a pregnancy to avoid stigma
Tools to re-parent ourselves
Showing up different than the parents we had
“Me taking care of me and making good choice for me is not selfish, it’s self care”
Give the family inside you copious amounts of love and attention
“The circles that matter”
Amanda’s substack
“That freeness and that acceptance and that joy; it’s gonna fall on people around you”
The impact of learning that you are valuable
Deciding not to let abortion stigma live in your family
Telling our kids about our abortions
“It opened a door for other conversations… no matter what mommy is here for you… I got your back”
“In my case religion was weaponized”
“When I got into therapy it took a lot of work”
“I want to raise my kids with confidence and love”
Believed “I was undeserving”
“Why are you laughing remember what you did? … put me in a box of fear”
In therapy “at the beginning I tried not to be honest” “What is she gonna think of me?” “What if she finds out?”
“My trauma from it was so bad I used to have nightmares, ongoing nightmares”
“Was told not to speak of it”
Abortion was the “skeleton in the closet”
“Grieve your hurt, grieve your isolation”
“I was left alone at a time in my life when I needed help”
Working on the HIV unit- understanding the physical and emotional suffering
“Them being judged made me so angry”
Scared something would go wrong in subsequent pregnancies
“Is God now going to punish me for what I did?”
“Always walking on eggshells”
“Being so grateful but also so fearful… how is the punishment gonna come?”
You broke so much stigma before you ever told this story publicly
When we suffer because we don’t think we deserve good care
When someone says they are pregnant “So how are we feeling about this?” this question alone breaks stigma
“Our lives matter too”
“There are so many things to spend time and energy on other than trying to degrade someone because they made a choice”
Relationship with God now “beautiful, real, loving”
“Religion cages you in and spirituality sets you free”
Flip it Like This- David Hayward
“Learn to love yourself”
“You and your nose ring are hired”
“People are always going to have their opinions; usually the people with the harshest opinions are the most insecure”
The Many lives of Mama Love
Know My Name
“More gets done in 3 month parent coaching than a year of strictly substance abuse counseling”
“When I’m learning to love me I don’t wanna hurt me, I don’t want to run from me anymore”
“I don’t care what stage of your life you are at; healing is possible”
Amber!
