What we can learn from end of life care.
Rev. Kristi Grieder is a Life & Business Coach for Spiritual Entrepreneurs and the owner of Owner of Everyday Enough, LLC. In this conversation we explore how the end of life Hospice care movement can help influence how we all live.
Learn more here: https://everydayenough.com/
Show Notes:
1:1 coaching
Membership
The Life Coach School
Ordained pastor, Lutheran minister, hospice chaplaincy
“Pulled and led and drawn to the topics no one wants to talk about”
Abortion is a real raw human experience, not a topic
Thought work as an entry point to accessing the body and spirit
“I was that kid who went to Sunday school, wouldn’t talk for the whole time, and say something that sounded like an 85 year old.”
“I was very disillusioned with some things going on…systemic issues around sexism”
“Allergy to institutional toxicity”
“I’ve always thrived in the intellect… thought work was an entry point for me”
“Feelings expert who doesn’t know how to feel… always been pulled to big ideas and big questions”
Breaking through myths and stigma
“I’m compelled literally by a vision that there are tools we’re not giving to ourselves… we’re not giving ourselves tools to be empowered”
Hospice movement
“Pulled to big complex issues… not black and white sound bytes”
“In healthcare spiritual care is one of the 4 core disciplines”
Life review
“People deserve dignity, respect, and choices”
Patient centered care
“What would quality of life be for you?”
“I just don’t think you should have to wait for you to die for that to kick in”
Revisiting loss of dignity and autonomy at end of life care
Min 30 ish- What could the hospice movement offer to abortion care?
Abortion is a life transition
“The conversation shifts when the facts change”
“There are things that happen in life that that we have no control over… that we can’t explain” using the bible to explain these things causes harm
“My denomination has social statements” - “not a prescription” “questions to engage in conversation”
What if all of life had the goal of starting good conversations?
End of life “Biggest thing we talk about is feeling unworthy”
Worthy- Jessica Kern Lima
“We can’t compartmentalize our grief”
Coaching gives a tool to pull one thread “pulling at one thread can unravel it”
“We need to hear again and again and again: you are loved, you matter, your beloved”
The practice is the important part
“You don’t have to pick between your beliefs, your spirituality, and or your body; they are ll integrated”
Taking charge of your fertility- the book
“Why can’t we be the place where people talk about the hard things; why do we need to be known for the place that’s gonna ostracize you for what’s happened in your life?”
“Our shame sometimes is louder”
“If we practice these negative experiences about ou selves, it’s so much harder to have a peaceful death”
“Spiritual distress affects physical pain”
“We have to help people address ‘what are you really thinking about this?’ That’s what it means to really give people dignity and respect and mind/body/spirit care”
“I love coaching because we have more freedom to be able to create spaces to fill the gap”
“I found coaching in a time in my life when I had experienced discrimination”
Everyday Enough- “How do we live our days in the horizon of these end of life questions?”
“I was never meant to be in the system”
“The people I’m meant to serve would never walk into a church”
“Coaching allows me to be able to live out the vision I’ve always had”
www.everydayenough.com
@kristigrieder
