The Intersection of Sex and Abortion
Dr. Laura Jurgens is a somatic sex, embodiment, and relationship coach. Laura specializes in helping individuals or couples learn to play their way to better connections, emotionally and physically. She uses experiential practices to enable clients to build joyful confidence and mastery. Her approach is practical, inclusive, and de-shaming. It is also sex-positive, queer and trans-positive, trauma-informed, and grounded in the latest mind-body research.
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Show Notes:
Sex Help for Smart People
“Abortion can add another layer of complexity… especially to their own bodies and their own sexuality”
“We can feel a lot of pressure to be different than we are”
Embodiment work “Most rewarding for me”
Our first connections to our womb spaces and root and sacral chakras
Abortion is an entry point to feel into the power of their reproductive space
“We are all energy beings”
Asking questions that we don’t know the answers too
“Life for energy.. and the capacity we have…”
Erotic energy
“Claiming that place in your body”
The power of life and death “Life is all about death, death is all about life”
“Is it okay for me to access my pleasure? Is it a route to something shameful?”
Expansion moves in all directions
life/death, pleasure/pain, yes/no
“You were able to process your pain in connection with your partner… when we can do that it’s a real gift. Not everybody has that. We don’t always have the reources or the other people around us who can do that”
“Abortion can be an incredible assertion of one’s own boundary”
“Owning your no in order to find your yes”
“There’s a million different ways to have sex”
What you want to do with your body
“Being allowed to be a person with preferences”
“Whatever capacity you have in the moment”
The elements and layers of a yes and a no
Just because it’s an example of what’s possible doesn’t mean it’s supposed to happen for everyone
Whatever your experience is as a listener if the experience you are supposed to be having
“It enriches everything to have recognition of diverse experiences”
“Full permission to be a little bit woo today”
“Use insights from our current self to go back and inform versions of our past self”
“Permissible and amazing that we can time travel in ourselves”
A coping mechanism for one part of your life, might not be useful in another part of your life
“Go back to those previous selves with my current love and compassion… profoundly healed a lot of my trauma and pain”
“Touch is our first language… sometimes what we needed is to be held in a certain way”
My somatic workout rabbit hole
My hip pain
“Ask the body… the body is a powerful source of wisdom if we listen”
“Access whatever emotions are underneath”
“Stay still enough to hear whatever kind of movement it wants”
“Emotional history that is stuck in out bodies”
“Pressure around sexuality… as if it is for someone else”
“Sexuality and eroticsim is one of the ways we used to heal”
“...it is adult play”
Layers of weird stuff to process
“Many of us are going into sex early on in our lives for approval or for protection or because we think we’re supposed to”
“We can believe that all day long intellectually but that doesn’t mean we aren’t…”
“We need to meet ourselves where we were”
“Of course you felt …”
Play leads to punishment/danger
“When you feel solely responsible for making sure you aren’t pregnant”
“Important to feel like you are not in it alone”
“You can find your way back”
We are here for all of what comes up
“When we start looking we start finding”
