Driving Your own Spiritual Life
David Hayward has been a pastor of churches for over 25 years and is deeply interested in how people can form healthy communities. He is also and artist, cartoonist, and teacher. He and his wife Lisa live on the Kennebecasis River near Saint John, NB, Canada, and have three grown children.
Learn more at https://nakedpastor.com
Show Notes:
@nakedpastor (raw, real, honest)
1:55 David’s intro
Kinder Surprise
4:33 an atheist friend said “either God is everywhere and everything or nowhere and nothing”
5:23 “Take the wheel; it’s your turn to drive your own spiritual life… that’s what I fight for for people”
When you start questioning the beliefs you were raised with?
“For most of our lives we assume the people in charge know what they’re doing.”
*8:43 “not everything’s right; something wrong; I’m not free I don’t feel free… I feel trapped”
9:12 “If I want to live free… it’s going to cost me”
Making decisions with clarity (flash clarity or slower earned clarity)
13:05 “The way you do it is your way; your independence starts now”
14:55 “I grew up in a home and a culture where I had to surrender my will”
15:45 “Fuck everybody else, what do I want right now”
16:48 “I want this because I need this”
20:14 “There’s different ways of responding to trauma”
22:11 “The core engine of what drives me is my own personal freedom… I want others to live the same thing… often we’re already free, we’re afraid of the consequences of living free”
23:09 “when I’m feeling trapped I look around and say- what am I afraid of?”
23:34 “Are you trapped or afraid of the consequences of your choices, your free choice?”
Where will the institution of religion go next?
“It’s here to serve us, we’re not here to serve it”
27:11 “The more we progress and grow so that we’re more and more inclusive… the more reaction is gonna come from the far right… it’s always a reaction to progress”
29:39 “those who are on the right… one of their key strategies is voter suppression because they don’t have enough votes to stay in power”
33:18 “It doesn’t matter if you believe god forgives you; if you can’t forgive yourself, you’ll never be happy”
33:48 “true love and compassion doesn’t require forgiveness… love just loves”
Love yourself and forgiveness becomes irrelevant
If you don’t know what you want or believe it matters, everything is harder
38:57 “When a woman decides I know what I want and I’m going to go for it; it’s radical”
Flip it Like This- David’s book
