Emerging After Abortion
Alexandra is a Mindset Coach for women who want to stop hiding so they can start being seen, being heard, and being hired.
Learn more at: https://www.facebook.com/alexandracovucci/
Show Notes:
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3:13 Alexandra’s intro
Show up powerfully by feeling safe to be seen
4:27 “both deeply longs to be seen, but also deeply fears it”
Abortion exposes us to ourselves
7:30 The way to start feel safe to be seen is to start radically seeing yourself
7:54 “It’s kind of like grief, when something happens, the grief of it touches all grief” “brining to the center all the places we’ve felt it”
8:26 “we practice staying because hiding is a form of running… staying in the room with ourselves”
How do we practice staying?
11:28 “direct and turbulent shot right back to our humanity” “within our humanity we find our aliveness” “we’re hungry for who we are in our truth”
What do we want to look for when we’re feeling exposed?
15:33 What’s the way in which I’m reactively engaging to this? “that’s gonna tell me a lot about who I think I am” “Who am I at the point of engagement?”
17:58 “What are the responses I’m most scared to get? … And what it that illuminating in me”
18:56 “What is my defense pattern right now? What am I protecting?”
19:19 “We can’t exist in exposure without also making room for our defense mechanisms and learning those and befriending those”
20:23 “If I were to have a conversation with my mother about it….” practical needs, emotional needs
Defense mechanisms- Fight, Freeze, Fawn
22:32 “even just name what’s happening” “when in doubt I just name what’s happening”
24:10 “when we give ourselves context we can actually take a lot of the activation, shame, bewilderment out of our own processes”
25:16 “I’m protecting myself, I’ll look at this later, what do I need in this moment?”
27:47 “we’re often divorced from our bodies”
29:30 “What’s a level of exposure that’s next level but not all the way level?”
Mothering Magazine
30:45 “If love is difficult…”
EMERGE
Map of aliveness
33:54 “desire meets defense is usually the places we hide” the place where you step into yourself
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