Radical Self-Acceptance After Abortion
Katie helps people understand why they're still struggling and gives them the tools to create their own way out. She’s all about liberation, and here to share her abortion story.
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Show Notes:
1:49 Katie’s introduction
2:22 “There’s so much about me that’s about healing and recovery and transformation, and stories.”
2:59 “When you share a story there are little fragments of your aura that spread out like glitter”
3:31 “I have a story that matches every trauma… my soul loves to live experiences so I can tell the story”
5:14 “I took 12 years off… I became a virgin again”
7:18 confusion, wants, shoulds, choices, people pleasing
10:52 “I did the test wrong, I always do everything wrong”
11:34 Abortion on Demand
12:00 “I don’t even have words to explain…”
12:49 friends “this could be your last chance”
13:26 telling my boyfriend “terrified”... “he and I made the decision together”
17:00 “I just didn’t want to throw up on the floor… I’m not a bad person”
18:42 “I thought I was in control and I wasn’t… long story short I am back on birth control”
We make decisions, but we can’t see what’s on the other side of them until we get there
Ruthless, raw, radical self-acceptance
22:16 abortion- one of my greatest fears
22:42 “inability to love and accept ourselves because we’ve been filled with so much shame”
23:30 “I know now that” when something happens that isn’t perfect “doesn’t mean I have to go and destroy myself”
24:01 “You’ve gotta be willing to be with yourself in your grief”
24:59 “there couldn’t have been a more (messy, scary…) thing to happen”
There was still a grief process
27:00 Grant myself some grace “You still went through something hard and traumatic even though you knew made the right choice” “Give yourself the gift of grieving”
31:23 “I needed him to know how I was hurting”
35:12 “If you withhold your pain and your needs, I can’t help you”
35:31 people pleasing “I didn’t ask for what I needed and because of that I didn’t give myself a chance to experience love the way I wanted to and needed to”
37:43 “I want to be with you… that’s the scariest thing to admit”
39:22 “These are things I believed they asked me to be in order to be loved and accepted”
It’s all paper dolls- none of this is true
I am a woman of creation!
Woman Unfurling
46:09 “I had all of these things happen and at the end of the day I have always been me”
46:49 “I spent 85,000 dollars trying to fix myself and then the big cosmic joke was…” You’re not broken.
You don’t need to be fixed IG post
50:11 “I love love love breaking patterns” … “I didn’t know I had the right to choose me”
52:35 “You’re training for when shit hits the fan… problems don’t go away, you just get better at navigating them”
54:36 “I’m sitting in the middle of some shit, what do I do with it? How do I create change?”
55:30 “If you keep showing up for yourself and you invest in yourself you will always get the reward”
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