Breaking the cycle- Becoming a better mom
Laurie Somma is a Sober Empowerment Coach who helps her clients focus on self love. She had two abortions as a teenager and credits much of her life and parenting today to those decisions. Laurie's story will fill your heart with so much compassion and connection.
Show Notes:
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5:25 Laurie’s introduction
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9:44 “I am breaking the cycle of abuse that was going through my family”
10:58 Laurie’s story “I’ve been through a lot of trauma and abuse”
11:32 “my mother always hated her self and taught me how to hate myself” bulimic and alcoholic at age 9, first suicide attempt at age 11, drug addict age 14, mental hospital at age 16
12:50 “If anyone was self-destructing it was me… but I’ve always had that sense of ‘I know there’s more’... I was so hurt and taking it all out on myself”
13:47 “I’ve had to save myself… instead of caring they were mad at me”
14:25 “I was very promiscuous because I was trying so hard to be liked. my entire life the message I got was that in order to be liked you had to do sexual stuff”
15:19 “to numb or be liked… I wanted to be loved, I wanted to be wanted, I wanted to feel like I meant something to someone”
15:44 “I was pregnant at 16; I felt so alone, didn’t know who to turn to”
Drinking a 40 and self-harming and trying to figure out what to do
18:35 “I am so thankful that we have the right to this choice, and it can be safe medically”
2 abortions- one at 16, one at 19
19:40 “I was growing up in a family that- I would have continued the cycle… I wasn’t healed, I was hurt”
21:45 “It’s not the easiest decision to make… while you are in it you don’t really know”
22:14 “I made the right choice, I stand in my power 100%”
To take away access to abortion is us condoning thei trauma for so many people
24:42 “I can’t even fathom what that child would have gone through… I know what I went through being the product of hurt unhappy people”
27:17 I had an abortion as part of becoming a mom
27:55 “I would have never been the mom that I am today”
28:33 “Making those two choices in my life gave me time to grow up, to get sober, to heal”
29:28 “I’ve kept this story in… it’s not an easy story to tell”
Choosing abortion is a part of how we grow as people
31:24 “There are so many people who are against abortion without understanding”
These are big human stories we’re talking about
On adoption
35:21 “Most of the people approved for adoption are Christian based… I have friends whose lives were hell… not being accepted”
It’s SO much more complicated than anything we see in the media
40:24 Laurie’s message to anyone who had an abortion when they were a teen
41:15 Media pushes the story of regret
Honor what happened to you. It’s okay to heal.
42:25 “We can stand proudly in our story”
What happens after we tell our story?
We have so much space to fill.
Your inner narrative
45:50 “We allow what other people say about us, and too us, to be our inner narrative”
36:38 “what I say about myself and too myself”
47:38 “You do not have to keep using the words people use to hurt you to hurt yourself”
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