Unlocking Secrets
This week’s guest is Kathe Crawford. She is a Transformational Coach, combining the expertise gained in her 25 years as a successful sales and marketing executive with the spiritual work she has done. She guides women in redefining their lives, career and business harnessing their power as authentic leaders. She believes that all women should have access to their inner guidance system and define what they truly want out of life.
Learn more on her website: https://www.kathecrawford.com/
Show Notes:
0:44 Maggie Reyes- Episode 61
2:11 Kathe’s introduction
3:31 “My biggest Joy and my biggest breakthrough was when I wrote my memoir- Unlocking Secrets, My Journey to an Open Heart”
4:40 Husband’s diagnosis with HIV back in the 80s
7:36 “It wasn’t a conscious secret… it was over 20 years and we never told a soul, including our children”
8:36 “I was also protecting my children… would my kids be allowed to go to school?”
10:34 “not knowing was also part of the survival”
12:09 “The secret is really about learning to love yourself”
13:00 “Twenty years later I’m still trying to heal myself”
13:13 I’m living these two different lives”
13:23 “I felt that there was no point in telling anyone… but I never connected that holding this secret was actually the catalyst for healing my heart”
14:44 “I did it all… but I still always felt like something was off… there was somthing missing”
15:34 “I was trying to do all the things that everyone said I should do to fix myself”
15:54 “Never was on my radar that what I had lived through back then was still with me”
16:09 “We kinda tuck things aside; I tucked it away in my heart; keeping that scret was what I had left… maybe someone would taint it”
19:51 “There’s a lot of moving parts to our stories”
20:16 “My biggest fear was rejection”
20:56 “I caused all this...”
22:02 “They’re own our triggers to our own shadows”
22:49 “We have to start at the beginning of where it came from… usually it’s to keep ourselves safe”
23:30 “There must be something wrong with me, so if I don’t let anyone see me or know me then I’m safe”
23:44 “I stayed right under that radar because I didn’t want to be exposed, because I ran the risk of people finding out who I really was”
25:14 “My karma has really now become my dharma… and that is where I really help women to release their stories”
25:43 “You don’t know what people are holding on to”
25:20 “What it gave me the ability to do was living always in a place of love; I was desperately always seeking love… I wanted to be perfect Kathe”
28:21 “The gift that was in that… the love that I always wanted was in me all along”
32:52 “He was telling me how closed my heart was… that’s all of the pain, all of the shame, all of the guilt”
32:20 “ I had been searching on the external”
32:39 “With anything, you need to find the gift… for me on the other side has been pure bliss”
33:21 “You gotta find that one person you can open up to and explore with”
33:35 How do we tell ourselves our own story?
35:08 Dharma and Karma
35:33 “The bottom line is that you have to tell the truth”
37:12 “Who was I without my story?” “You are not your story”
40:46 “What they heard in my story was themselves… everybody has something”
40:39 “That’s when I realized I wasn’t alone… this is the gift”
42:00 “Break through the story that’s holding them back from living who they are authentically, and not being ashamed”
45:04 “We’re all afraid of what’s on the others side of this fear, because with fear, we know what we’ve got”
47:56 “I more comfortable being a survivor than I am a thriver”
48:17 “What are we still trying to hide from?”
48:38 “You’re not your story”
48:56 “If you’re not happy with your choice… you learn to make new choices”
50:40 “You are worthy. You do matter.”
51:13 “Always go back to love”
51:58 “Don’t be so hard on yourself”
