Expanding What It Means To Love
This week’s guest is Karen C.L. Anderson, a master-certified life coach and author who has helped hundreds of smart, creative women use the difficult relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth. Karen recognizes that what is possible personally is what is possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women.
Karen’s website: https://kclanderson.com/
Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kclanderson
Show Notes:
2:18 Karen’s introduction
3:10 “They see their mother’s as the kryptonite to their superwoman”
3:32 Mother Lode- A conversation about Emotions, Power, and Creativity
4:31 It was never about not being able to love, blog post reading
9:05 “I have never regretted that choice”
9:44 “It wasn’t a hard choice and I was so glad to make that choice”
11:25 “Kya knew judement had no place here. Evil was not in play, just life pulsing on, even at the expense of some of the players. Biology sees right and wrong as the same color in different light.” -Delia Owens, Where the Crawdads Sing
12:44 Use the your same light for different purposes
13:39 “It’s when we think something is wrong or bad that we need to explain or justify it”
15:30 The “standing invitation” to judge mothers and women
16:36 There should be a word for women who choose not to have children (insta post)
17:55 “...they certainly didn’t want to have children under the circumstances in which they did…”
19:11 “If it had been different for them, would it have been different for me?”
22:14 The things we’re meant to work through will come no matter what we choose in our lives
24:56 “forcing myself to be something that I’m not”26:06 Healing the maternal lineage
27:37 “...teachers who show us what love is and what it isn’t” No matter what you choose the teachers come
31:12 “What kind of person doesn’t want to take care of something?”
34:53 “It doesn’t mean anything except you are having a thought”
35:12 “People have thoughts like this”
36:01 Favorite resources for shame, “I love myself because I had an abortion”
-Untamed, Glennon Doyle38:03 “Let yourself feel however compassion feels for you”
38:42 I love myself because I’m human- “the ultimate in mothering”
39:09 “The pain of shame can make our nervous systems react”
39:34 Trauma response: fight, flight, freeze, fawn
41:08 Voo chant- Simone’s podcast episode with Karen, including the video link
43:40 Bilateral Stimulation
44:28 “Normalizing trauma helps everyone’s nervous system”- heal the collective, “how we heal individually is how we heal collectively”
45:23 “Love is always available”
