Abortion Beneficiaries
Erin is the CEO + Founder of Ella (an inclusive network unlocking women's access to human, social and financial capital), the Founder of the Hype Women Movement and Host of the Hype Women Podcast. She coined the term abortion beneficiary and has herself had two abortions 20 years apart.
Learn more here: https://www.ellaforall.com/
Show Notes:
Erin on LinkedIn - Abortion Beneficiary
“Conversations about what the truth is” (our lived experience)
ELLA
“I want women to make more money… I want women to run everything”
Hype Women
“51% of the population could absolutely swing this pendulum to an equitable middle”
The things we thought we’d never do
“How much of it is your choice and how much of it is situational?”
“Women’s unpaid labor is an entire global economy of 10.9 trillion dollars”
“Let’s stop shaming women into this particular endeavor”
If it’s easy for me then it’s not valuable (sneaky thoughts)
Felt the power of me saying no to life as much as me saying yes to life
“All that shame is actually saying saying is ‘we as women already existing in this world, are worth less’”
I coined that term because I was tired of seeing “misgoyny masquerading as morality”
“We do get to take back the power and the narrative”
“I wanted to dispel this idea that there’s a morality argument here; there isn’t”
“Whether someone is pro-choice or anti-choice they are an abortion beneficiary; full stop”
“Every part of his life that is made possible, is because women have choice”
Hey Jane
“The reasons I had those abortions is no one’s damn choice”
This Idea that pregnancy is a beautiful magical experience; it’s not a monolithic experience”
“There was no way I was gonna have a third child because I don’t think I would have survived what that experience was; I lost so much of myself… I had to really claw my way back after those pregnancies”
“Every fucking abortion is elective”
“It’s a matter of survival”
“We chose ourselves and what we knew was best for us and that is the shame that women experience; we are taught our whole lives to abandon ourselves”
Keep choosing me: power, value, worth, life
We want: more, different, bigger
‘It’s much easier to feel like the path we’re on isn’t good enough’
Sliding Doors
“We can be energized in knowing that even the small things make a difference”
“Abortion is not a comparative exercise”
“I’ve had two abortions. I don’t give a shit what you think about me because of that.”
“I can just say it”
“The judgment is false and it is taught to us”
“The word has so much stigma attached to it”
“I hid my first abortion for 20 years… because of the judgment”
“Anytime I choose my want I am still living the life I made my choice for”
“I am an abortion beneficiary because you had an abortion”
Could I do it? - see obstacles
Should I do it? - see beliefs
Would I do it? - see wantsIf you are eating a tomato you are an abortion beneficiary
60% of abortion are chosen by parents of two or more
All reported numbers are low
“We don’t get to walk away, men don’t”
A man isn’t even on a piece of paper about this… consequence free
“We don’t have the same option to hit the road”
When we choose abortion we are saying yes to power, value, worth
We need to VOTE
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