Resentment, Loss, and Reclaiming Aliveness
Wendy helps people suffering from loss to reclaim a sense of aliveness. She has a vision of helping people learn to confidently, proactively, and freely navigate the hard feelings of loss, pain, isolation, heartbreak, and grief.
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Show Notes:
“I help people suffering a loss reclaim a sense of aliveness”
Bring back the joy- bring back life
How do I start melting away some of the pain and suffering?
“Grief is a time for more support, not less”
Atlas of the Heart- Brene Brown
Resentment as a partner with envy is based in comparison
“We only know what we’re going through”
“Visceral response… that’s the truth… it’s a signal”
I knew I was supposed to choose abortion and it pissed me off
“Take the topic seriously, but not myself”
“How can I access it?”
I get to heal forward knowing I followed my truth
“What is the emotional truth that also exists along side of this?”
“Relationship with the idea of parenthood”
What am I making this mean?
“What am I not giving myself that I need?”
What else could be true?
Afraid it’s not gonna work.
If I start crying I’m not gonna stop…
“Just try it on…The fact is you’re already stuck”
“The thing is, we haven’t been taught to grieve or mourn, or feel sad”
“We are 100% wired for feelings, even shitty ones”
“It’s a feeling’s job to go on and move away”
The brain- “We’re just pretty sure it’s shiity and it’s always gonna be shitty”... the brain is wrong
When we follow the what ifs instead of feeling sad
Clean pain and dirty pain
Yes it’s bad, but it’s not usually what you think
Resentment as a distraction… “slippery little fish”
“Upset with myself for having made the choice… against myself and my desire”
Letting abortion be your life experience
Abortion can become a stuck place
Noticing the moment where you did have choice
Being with it as present and real but if not a beat down
In the moment it didn’t feel like a choice
“Take 1% responsibility for the choices you did have”
“This is crap, and this is not what I wanted”
“You can’t make a mistake but you can have all the experience”
Plant Spirit Medicine- Clare Pearson
I get to be responsible for what my life looks like
Heart Healing From Loss- Wendy’s Podcast
Grief Anniversary podcast of Wendy’s
