Two Abortions and the Whole and Complete Human Behind Them
Victoria is a mom of one and has had two abortions. She shares the differences between her experiences and how she's healing through the grief that followed one of them.
Show Notes:
We’re people who’ve had abortions
The Abortion Diary
Abortion during a pandemic
April Fool’s Day positive pregnancy, Friday the 13th abortion day
Abortion in Massachusetts
Copper IUD - missed period - IUD in abdomen - abortion
Different emotional attachment to each pregnancy
“Too hard to think about either choice”
“Hearing it from his mouth was hard”
“I knew having an abortion was what I needed to do”
“I was mad at everybody and everything”
“I thought I would be okay”
“The amount of grief I felt for this second abortion was insane”
“I was confused: why do I feel this way? I chose this? This is the best decision…”
The center Victoria went to was a CPC- CPCs have a complicated reputation and I cannot personally recommend anyone trust a CPC. This does not discount Victoria’s experience. I support anything that helps anyone heal.
Expose Fake Clinics- https://www.exposefakeclinics.com/
No two abortions are the same, just like no two pregnancies or births are the same
Immediate post abortion check ins don’t catch all mental emotional turmoil
No set rules, no set formulas
Stories show us how many ways abortion can go
How Victoria knew it was time to get help: not as happy, dreading things, doing the bare minimum, grief and depression, irritable, picking fights, felt like I was drowning
We have to factor in the whole of people’s lives
What Victoria wishes she had said to herself: offer myself more room to grieve, not beat up on myself so much, “things get better”
“I contribute and give credit to my therapy more than time”
“It feels so good to talk. It feels so good to let it out.”
“This taught me. This is how grief is. Nothing is invalid.”
