Learning How to do Regret
Master Coach Karen C L Anderson’s coaching is trauma-informed, and based on intersectional feminist principles. She has worked with therapists, business owners, performers, coaches, executives, stay-at-home mothers, sex workers, artists, writers, equestrians, doctors, lawyers… She knows the power of regret and especially the power of the mind.
Learn more at:
https://kclanderson.com/
Show Notes:
Karen’s first episode Expanding What it Means to Love
2:14 Karen’s introduction
2:53 “Even if you’ve chosen to never see or speak to her again… the relationship can be a source of creativity and growth”
There’s always more to learn and expand into
How can we be less afraid of regret and learn how to navigate it?
7:58 “Why don’t we learn how to do regret?”
8:17 “As long as we’re human we’re gonna have it, why not learn to do it”
Learning to do all human emotions
Binge eating
Picking
12:28 “I was trying to notice, when am I inclined to do it?”
Expanding our capacity to feel
Chasing and running from feelings
Back to REGRET
18:13 “I wish I didn’t do that…” “Who was I that could do that?” “I don’t want to think of myself as that kind of person”
The doing of regret
Curiosity rather than shame
Book- The Power of Regret
What can we do with it?
22:29 “It happened and if it hadn’t happened would something else have come along to….” breaking cycles in maternal lineage
23:26 “I broke a cycle in the way that I handled it… I went and did the uncomfortable”
Breaking the cycle of a reactive response to an emotion
Take the opportunity to break the cycles inside of ourselves
26:47 “Emotional resilience, when we know we can feel any emotion… I can trust myself a little more”
This work keeps growing
When we do the work, we show up and change the world
32:30 “a small acknowledgement with a felt sense of pride… let my nervous system know it’s safe to have more”
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