Imposter Syndrome and Reproductive Wellbeing
Master Coach Courtney Love Gavin is a Global Ambassador for Imposter Syndrome, Creator of the Imposter Syndrome Cure ™ and a neuroplasticity pioneer. Courtney candidly discusses the sneaky ways Imposter Syndrome shows up (perfectionism, people pleasing, overworking) and how to solve it at the source without using force.
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Show Notes:
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3:29 Courtney’s introduction
“our girl gang”
6:36 “shame lives in the dark”
Imposter Syndrome as mothers who choose abortion
10:15 “at the core when it comes to imposter syndrome there is this feeling of it not being safe”
11:55 imposter syndrome is “internalized oppression”
13:08 “you don’t want to have that adversarial relationship… you can try to self-hate your way to growth… I’m telling you it doesn’t work”
14:30 “Hey, it’s okay that we feel this way, but also let’s solve it”
15:14 “we are all light for each other”
15:24 “Imposter syndrome is not something to be ashamed of, it’s not something you need to manage, and it is not something you need to accept; it’s something you have the power to change” when we do “we create safety for each other”
17:22 “you get to redefine what a definition of being a mother is”
“I’m an adversity alchemist” The Phoenix that rises
18:26 “I’m really responsible. I made a tough decision that a lot of people don’t make.”
19:18 “When I think of a mother… soft and loving, but also being fierce as fuck”
Moms have abortions.
I had an abortion because I’m a mom.
Abortion is how I parented that child.
Abortions are an opportunity for us to redefine what we’ve believed.
Puritanical & Patriarchal influence
Imposter feminist
25:01 “I don’t go around and ask them, what are your thoughts on abortion; I don’t make myself wrong for that. I just decide that religion is a personal relationship that I have with a community”
26:15 “It’s an opportunity to re-orient yourself with that relationship”
26:48 “Hello you’re a human not a robot”
27:34 “I’m having a very human moment, and that’s okay”
Mentioned reel You are not alone
Human Design “correct is what it correct for you”
29:35 “It’s ok for me to feel this way… of course you feel alone because 100,000 people aren’t talking about it”
31:15 “I’m an adult who lived through a childhood of abuse and sexual abuse”... “I really didn’t think that it was affecting me at all… I couldn’t even look at that…”
32:29 “dissolving and evolving to be able to talk about that… it can be uncomfortable for some people when you are living in your truth”
If I look at it I’ll get stuck in it. I’ll drown. That’s the identity I’m running away from.
37:19 “It made me so much more okay with myself… this can actually be really powerful”
38:47 “Just because maybe you got to a place and you feel empowered by your abortion… it’s okay to have ups and downs”
Building resilience
Portals
Wherever you are, be there with it. Take away the should.
Neuro-normalize
Intellectualizing vs. integrating
43:22 “we can write affirmations until our fingers fall off”
I hate you and I love you… I’m going to make the space big enough to hold all of it.
Your tools remain a part of your identity
52:08 “You could live here for the rest of your life but I don’t think you want to”
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